Enjoy first night sex every night

Forever tip #1 Try the four-week plan"We all want what we can't have, so introduce a little celibacy into your sex life to really heat it up. The first week, you can only kiss each other, and the second, you can only touch. By week three, you can have oral sex, and by week four, you'll be so frustrated, the sex you finally allow yourselves to have will be mind-blowing."

Forever tip #2 Play sex Q&A "All too often, couples take it for granted that they know what each other's turn-ons are, so ask each other sex questions over a bottle of wine, whether or not you think you know the answers. Try: ‘What's your most erogenous zone?' or ‘What position would you really like to have sex in?' You'll either discover lots of new things about each other, or remember things you've simply forgotten."

Forever tip #3 Indulge those fantasiesNow you've reminded each other what your turn-ons are, try something to get your adrenalin going, such as alfresco sex or using blindfolds. After all, the only thing more arousing than having someone do whatever you ask is watching your partner getting really excited - and knowing you've made them feel that way."

Forever tip #4 Relax..."We're all busy women and when we're with Mr Long-Term, sleep often takes priority over sex. So make special time for each other - whether it's a trip back to the place you spent a dirty weekend or going for a massage together. Remember, stress does to sex what water does to fire. If you want the passion back, you must relax."

Forever tip #5 Ban bedroom baby talk"In the second loved-up month of your relationship, it might have seemed cute to name his penis Mr Winkle, but when you've been together a while, pet names can become the least sexy thing of all time. Don't ditch them though - just ban them from the bedroom. Rekindling first-time sex is about animal passion, not ‘snuffle-bunnies'."

20 sex tricks to try tonight

1. Give him the messageLeave a trail of sexy undies from the front door to the bedroom for your man to follow. And be waiting for him naked when he gets there.

2. Hats offWhen he's giving you oral sex, put the heel of your hand on your pubic mound and pull back slightly. Your clitoral hood will slide back, giving him access to your super-sensitive hotspot.

3. Fantasy landIf you've been too scared to share your fantasies before, try telling him a watered-down version and see how he reacts to it. If he's turned on, add more detail, little by little.

4. Pressure pointsIf you're nearing orgasm, apply gentle pressure to your ovaries (just inside your hip bones). Sounds crazy, but it gives things an extra kick.

5. X marks the spotUse red lipliner to mark the parts of your body you want him to focus on.

6. The three-point turn-onAdd va-va-voom to oral sex for him by reaching up to stroke his nipples with one hand and reaching down with the other to stimulate his perineum.

7. Position impossible?When changing positions, challenge yourself to keep your man inside you. While you're swivelling around, you > may find a new position on the way that you happen to like even better.

8. Leave your lingerie onIf you're prone to flashes of paranoia about your body, leave your sexy undies on for a raunchier time. Knickers-to-the-side sex feels divinely naughty and spontaneous.

9. Hand to mouthWhen kissing your man, add a touch of urgency by using your hands to hold his jaw, grip his hair and grab his back/bum/love-handles (that's what they're there for, after all).

10. Tasty tacticsWhen it comes to giving oral sex, the more lubrication you have, the better - so try a flavoured lubricant (like Sex Sweet Lube, £8.45, from www.sextoys.co.uk); it will be literally mouthwatering for you, and even more fun for him.

11. Head turnerIf you enjoy playing with a Rabbit vibrator, let your man join in with some oral favours. Turn it around 180 degrees, so the bunny head buzzes against your perineum while you still enjoy penetration from the vibrator, and your clitoris is exposed so your man can give it some attention.

12. Lust is blindIf your partner is a little predictable, blindfold yourself and challenge him to surprise you with some sexy new moves. Even old moves will feel more intense without your sight, as the other senses then become heightened.

13. The love lockFor maximum grip on his manhood, lie on your front and cross your legs, then have him enter you from behind. A cleverly positioned, vibrating ‘clitoral butterfly' (like the Glitter Critter, £20, from Ann Summers) will give you extra thrills.

14. Tickled pinkIf he's ticklish, initiate a tickle fight to get you both giggling and being physical. Once temperatures are raised, let the tickles turns to sensual strokes.

15. Sex educationTie your man up, so there's no touching allowed, then tell him to give you exact instructions on bringing yourself to orgasm. Reward him with a few seconds of oral sex when he gets it right, but don't let him climax until after you have.

16. Liquid joyAll manoeuvres will be smoother with lubricant. Learn how to apply it gracefully by thinking of it as sauce on an ice cream, trickling it slowly from a height. K-Y Warming Jelly has a tiny spout which makes the descent last even longer.

17. BreaststrokeIf you're already a dab hand at applying lubricant, stop using your hands. Slowly pour the liquid over your breasts, then use them to sandwich his penis.

18. Well of lustLet your man take a turn: tell him to fill your navel with the lubricant and use his finger or his penis to dip in and drag the liquid downwards.

19. Water thrillIf a water-based lubricant starts to run dry during a marathon session, revive its properties with a quick squirt of water. Or sip some water, then seductively dribble it over the relevant body parts.

20. Three little wordsDirty talk is a turn-on, but love is the greatest aphrodisiac of all, so if you do love him, tell him while you're having sex.